Seems to be such a hot topic and I`m not sure why. I have read everything possible on CAS supervised visits and they seem nothing but heart breaking to me.
I am not sure I could sit and visit with my children for an hour with someone taking notes. My God how exactly did we get to that point??
What happened in past cases to bring about a Hitler attitude to child rearing and visiting? Has no one thought of how a child might view this visit? How the child might loose respect for a parent? How a parent might feel helpless and lost?
I could not repetitively say goodbye to my child. I could not walk away every week. I could not turn my back on my crying child. I just couldn`t do it.
So why exactly would we debate a fathers stance on the issue?? Unless you can do all of these things and assume that a child is better because they got an hour, you could not do what he is being asked to do.
This is a well recorded ploy by child protective services Play nice and see your child, resist and God help you.
Derek would give anything to see Ayn. Ayn would do anything to see her daddy, but to say goodbye again at this point would be horribly traumatic.
Breaking the relationship is goal number one for any agency, insuring humiliation and constant upset is goal number two.
I remember when my mother came to visit me (once and only once) with my new born sister. I stood in the window and watched the car drive away. I will never forget that moment in my life. The lonliness, sadness and rejection was unbearable.
The debate on this issue should be a very short one if any at all. It pains me to think that this father is second guessing his own decisions.....not just months ago he had security as a parent.
I do believe at this point that Child protective services have done nothing more then damage another family.
Shame on them.
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