Derek`s Thanksgiving

I have heard to many stories now to believe otherwise, Ayn will most likely stay in a basement sedated during this holiday as well as the next.
Holidays are not a priority for any agency. Foster families have their own agenda`s and families and probably do not have time to cart children around or what ever else a visit on a holiday would entail.
Oh that`s right, sorry...it`s what`s in the best interest of the child. I forgot that it`s the right thing to do to leave foster kids alone during Christmas and any other holiday that might be of importance.
I don`t ever want to see a count of how many children have spent birthday`s without family. It would be much to high a percentage.

Now I`m sure the child protection workers would have no problems putting in the extra time on a holiday to schedule a supervised visit if this is a requirement. Then again, I haven`t found any who have. And I have looked into many cases.
I`m sure they are out there but I`m not sure that Children`s aid is aware of the impact of these holidays. What it does to a child to be with strangers during a special day, a day that was special and is now not so special.
Personally I have not celebrated my own birthday in over 20 years, I know of many other CAS survivors ( that is what we are) that do not celebrate Christmas or other holidays. The memories are to painful.
So we have a past history of bad judgement. We have survivors fighting for other families, we have made public the crimes these agencies are committing on a daily basis. Still not one agency seems to put the child and child needs first.
Derek will most likely have the loneliest Thanksgiving he has ever experienced. Although he still has custody of his other two children one will be missing. He will worry about her during his meal, he will wonder if she has smiled that day.
My heart goes out to Derek this week, I have been there and done that, it is unspeakable.
I am sorry for his pain once again, for no reason, no abuse no neglect nothing, Ayn will be alone for the first time in her life on a holiday. (unless we count the strangers surrounding her).